It’s not them … It’s you.
Even when someone is intentionally hurtful in their words or actions … it isn’t about you unless you make it that way by taking it personally.
When people are incomplete; out of balance; or simply do not love themselves; they inflict suffering on themselves and those around them.
Billion dollar industries exist to trigger your offense. Reality TV, social media, and the news media industrial complex are thriving because many in our culture buy in; placing fear above understanding and identity above being.
If you choose to trade in the economy of discontent; it’s not them … it’s you.
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For the record you can tune in twenty four hours a day to hear about a handful of terrible events that are selling the most things we don’t need. However, every minute of every day around the world …
Babies are born, flowers begin to bloom, great works of art are completed, inspiration sparks, new species are discovered, people get jobs, people happily retire, people find their work; people have breakthroughs; lives are saved, we move into new homes, we reconnect with old friends, we make new friends; we find a shiny penny, we climb mountains, we plant trees, we fall in love …
A days events are overwhelmingly positive and becoming more-so all the time. It’s all a matter of perspective. Your perspective is a real as anyone’s.
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Suffering begets suffering. Call it the human condition or whatever you want; it’s no one’s fault. It’s just the way we are and the only way to end the cycle is to let it go; set boundaries; and move on.
It’s simple and definitely not easy. I takes years of practice and most of the capacity to not take things personally comes from seeking wholeness, balance, and a healthy self-image; which takes work. The most rewarding work.
There are very few universally applicable words of advice … but these are one:
Never take anything personally.
Ever.
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“Saturn comes back around to show you everything
Let's you choose what you will and will not see and then
Drags you down like a stone or lifts you up again
Spits you out like a child, light and innocent
Saturn comes back around
Lifts you up like a child
or drags you down like a stone
To consume you till you …
Choose to let this go
Give away the stone
Let the oceans take and trans mutate this cold and fated anchor
Give away the stone
Let the waters kiss and trans mutate these leaden grudges into gold
Let go”
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